How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

Here are the tips on 'How to be a Successful Muslim Wife'

  

1. Use your 'Fitnah' (beauty and overtures of allurement) to win the heart of your husband.

All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with.  Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.  

2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting.

Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.   

3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them  

The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics.  Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc.  Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.

    

4. Always wear jewellery and dress up in the house.  

From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an.  As a wife, continue to use the jewellery that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.  

5. Joke and play games with your husband.  

A mans secret: they seek women who are light-hearted and have a sense of humour. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.  

 

6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.  Then thank him again.  

This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire. 

7. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.  

When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire.  Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry.  Let's be friends."  

 

8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.  

Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah.  So .. please him. 

9. Listen and Obey!  

Obeying your husband is Fard!  Your husband is the Ameer of the household.  Give him that right and respect.  

10. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.  

All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.  

Morning Routine!Hope this works inshaAllah.

Assalamu `alaikum,Today I was reading  Productive Muslim's Morning Routine .MashaAllah!It sounds great.It would be so effective if we really put it into practice.I remember my mom always tells me that they (some 40-50 years back)would wake up daily at 4.00 am and start their day.On the contrary,our day starts at 8.00 am.That is for those who wake up for fajr and sleep till sun is shining out there.Or still worse for those who don't wake up for Fajr at all.SubhanAllah!We already lost 4 hours of our time in sleep.

I don't like to sleep after fajr.Love the fresh morning air.But that depends if I slept early at night or if I didn't have a stressful day.InshaAllah!I want to change this habit hopefully :)With 2 lil kids in hand and one school going it was really difficult to schedule a routine.Because lil kids can bring unexpected surprises of not sleeping early or falling sick or waking up at night every now and then.

Here is the Morning Routine sumed up by ProductiveMuslim.I have tweaked it a bit based on my preference as a Home Maker.

4.00AM – 5.00AM: 5 Essential Actions

1. Wake up!

Perhaps the first and most important step to having a great morning routine is waking up early! And it is in that moment of indecisiveness – whether you should wake up immediately or enjoy your nice comfy bed for ‘5 more minutes’- wherein lies the secret to either a great day or a crazy one. Here’s a tip that always works with me for waking up: You know how shaytaan whispers in your ears “just sleep for 5 more minutes”… I simply whisper back to myself “just wake up for 5 minutes” ;) Yup, you can imagine the rest. As soon as you’re awake and begin reciting the Adkhar and making wudhu, you can imagine what happens to sleep – (Gone! Left the building!).

2. Make the Dua(s) for waking up and recite last 10 verses of Surah Al-Imran

Alhamdulillah, we have a beautiful set of “waking up” supplications which Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us. A collection of Wake Up Supplications can be found on MakeDua.com. My favorite is the recitation of the last 10 verses of Al-Imran (Chapter 3 of the Quran). You can almost feel your heart coming to life and being ‘juiced’ when the first thing you do as soon as you wake up is remember Allah & recite His Glorious Words from the Quran.

 3. Make Wudhu

We can all agree, there’s something about wudhu that really focuses your positive energy and cleanses you inwardly as well as outwardly. I had a friend who used to call this feeling “WuBuzz!” short for the “Buzz” you feel after wudhu ;) Don’t forget to say Bismillah before starting wudhu and the dua after finishing wudhu! The 8 gates of Heaven will be opened for you, (not a bad way to start your day ;) and you’ll feel refreshed and ready for the day ahead.

4. Tahajjud & Witr

Tahajjud or Qiyaam has been described as the “honour of the believer”, because who else would go through what you just did (wake up, wudhu..etc) just to stand up and pray? The beauty of Tahajjud is hard to describe; from the feeling of tranquility in your heart and understanding the Quran better at this time, to feeling closer to Allah at a time of isolation from others and wishing that you would never get up from that prostration, to self-reflection moments that we rarely get a chance to exercise in our busy world… all of them and more come from Tahajjud! Finally, praying Witr after Tahajjud and making sincere dua to Allah is a true booster to your day!

5. Istighfar moments

Don’t forget to use the last 5-10 minutes before Fajr to ask Allah for forgiveness and making lots of istighfar so that you are among those Allah mentioned in the Quran: “And in the hour of early dawn, they (were found) praying for Forgiveness” (Quran, Chapter 51, Verse 18).

5.00AM – 5.05 AM: Fajr Athan

Say as the muaddhin (The person who calls to Prayer) says and don’t forget the Dua after athan. Supplications Related to Athaan can also be found at MakeDua.com

5.05AM – 5.30AM: Between Athan & Iqama

1. Pray the 2 rak’ahs Sunnah of Fajr

Don’t miss this! Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “The two rakahs before the dawn (Fajr) prayer are better than this world and all that it contains. (Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 1102). Just think about this hadeeth for a moment; 5 minutes of your time to pray 2 short rak’ahs are better than this whole wide world with all its’ lands, people, treasures, nature and beyond! SubhanaAllah!

Also, if this is the importance and merit of the Sunnah of Fajr, what about the obligatory Fajr prayer itself? (There is a heartwarming video reminder to those who neglect Fajr Salah called: ‘Are you neglecting the Fajr Prayer?’)

2. Dua

Did you know that the time between the Athan & Iqama is a prime time to make dua? Make the most of it! Narrated Anas ibn Malik: “The supplication made between the athan and the iqamah is not rejected.” (Sunan Abu Dawood, Book #2, Hadith #0521)

3. Lie on your right side

Narrated ‘Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her): “Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) used to pray two light rakahs before the morning (compulsory) prayer after the day dawned and the Mu’addhin had finished his adhan. He then would lie on his right side till the Mu’addhin came to pronounce the Iqama.” (Sahih Bukhari, Book #11, Hadith #599)

4. Brainstorm session

I sometimes use this time to either plan my day, or brainstorm ideas for ProductiveMuslim/articles or just reading and writing. You’ll be surprised how active your brain is at this time! You’re awake, alert and kicking ;)

5. Quran memorization

Speaking of your mind being active, memorizing Quran at this time is incredible as well. I have tried memorizing Quran after Asr/Maghreb when I’m tired and back from work Vs. after Fajr. The difference is overwhelming, SubhanaAllah! After Fajr, your brain is truly like a sponge and it is the best time to memorize verses from the Quran :).

5.30AM – 6.00am: Fajr Salat & Dhikr

If you are a brother, and can get to a mosque no matter how far – go for it! The beauty of praying Fajr in the masjid is hard to describe. I prefer walking to the Masjid Vs. driving (cycling is good as well ;) since you get a chance to breath in the fresh morning air; Allah says in the Quran: “And the Dawn as it breathes away the darkness” (Chapter 81, Verse 18)

After Fajr Salah, sit back, relax and enjoy performing the post Salah Dhikr and morning supplications.

6.00 – 6.30am: Recite, Read or Exercise

1. Quran Memorization/Recitation

Recite and/or Memorize Quran as mentioned previously, or if you have a good tafsir book, then reading the meaning of at least one page of the Quran is a great bonus!

2. Reading

Spend this time reading Islamic material. I stress that the reading must be Islamic, because as I mentioned previously, your mind is like a sponge at this time and is highly active. You want whatever you’re reading to be truly embedded into your mind & soul inshaAllah.

Suggested books to read: Hadeeth books, Stories of the Prophets, Seerah, etc…

3. Exercise

Another option is a quick 30 minute exercise. This could be jogging around the block, cycling, using a treadmill, some aerobics/cardiovascular exercises and anything that builds your stamina.

6.30AM – 6.45: Plan Your Day

This is where I plan the rest of my day, of course, using the Taskinator ;). Sometimes I check and send e-mails around this time as well to help me plan my day or set out tasks for myself and team members.

6.45AM – 7.00: Get Ready For Work

Shower, get dressed, and gather your paper work, (although organizing your items the night before makes this 15 minute process of getting ready a lot smoother!) Put things where you can find them so that you don’t waste time searching for them.

7.00AM – 7.10: Duha Prayers.

Nothing sets your day straight like Duha prayer, as mentioned in the “Top 7 Spiritual Productivity Habits” to adopt. Nu`aym ibn Hammar (Allah be pleased with him) relates that he heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: “Allah Most High says: O child of Adam, don’t fail to perform four rakahs in the beginning of your day, and I shall be your sufficiency at its end.” (Abu Dawud (1289) and Tirmidhi (475).

7.15AM – 7.30AM: Breakfast

Reward yourself for a ProductiveMorning with a big FAT hearty (healthy) breakfast! Try to avoid caffeine and have a fibre filled bowl of goodness to set you in good stead.

7.30AM – 8.00AM: Commute to Work

Don’t forget my tips about commuting ProductiveMuslim style! ;)

Imagine if all your mornings were like the above… how much will you gain spiritually? How much knowledge will you acquire? What will your mood be like for the rest of the day? Try the above, just for one day, and let me know how it goes inshaAllah.

We read Productive Muslim' tips.Here is what I planned keeping in mind the above routine:

PRE-FAJR TIME (4.00 AM-5.00 AM)

-5 Essential Actions.[Same as in the above Routine]. 
 -Fajr Athan,(Athan etiquette)
-2 Raka'h sunnah of Fajr
-To lie down for some time on Right side(may be 5-10mins).

Personal Note:This can be achieved only if we really wake up @ 4.00 and not @ 7.00 am.Or else we can't make through enough time to read the Adhkaar.Either your kid is getting late for school,so you hurry up to get him dressed , hurry up rolling roti or breaking those eggs for breakfast,packing your kids lunch box....etc etc Oh!So much  mess.And we lose our energy and focus at the start of the day.Further more we lose out the ajar of waking up early which is a Sunnah.Hence the best way is to wake up @ 4.00 am. 

 
Inspiration:

"If you think you are a strong believer,try lifting up that warm cozy blanket away and wake up for Fajr"

FAJR SALAAH(5.00 AM-5.30 AM)

-Fajr salaah,Dhikr,Morning Adhkaar(20 -30 min)
-If Fajr athan is late you can first read Qur'an before fajr salaah.
-Also sort out the laundry and put one round into washing machine.I enter kitchen only after Fajr Salaah and Adhkar.Or else we females have the tendency to stay over there for long time which can lead to delaying Salaah and adhkar.(May Allah save us)By 5.30 am I am done with salaah and dhikr.
Also we need to make it a habit to wake up our kids for fajr salaah and then make them recite Qur'an with us.

SELF STUDY TIME(5.30 AM-6.15 AM)

Now starts the time for memorization and self Islamic study time till 6.15 am.




PLANNING TIME(6.15 AM-6.45 AM)
Plan for the day ahead.
Check the calendar for any appointments or reminders.

BREAKFAST & KIDS SCHOOL TIME(6.45 AM-7.30 AM)

Time for quick breakfast and packing lunch box.Always a good idea to set things at night like making the filling for sandwich or kneading the dough (specially with yeast) for saving time and mess.School kids time for dress up and breakfast.

BRISK WALK(7.30 AM-8.30 AM)

Once kids leave to school (@ 7.30 am),time to dry the clothes in washing machine.Then get ready for morning walk of  30 min-1 hour.{I am quiet lazy in other forms of exercise except for walking ;) To me this is easier compared to others.}As you walk along,you can put on your mp3 players.Listen to a new Islamic lecture or a beautiful Qiraat.

BREAKFAST(8.30 AM-9.00 AM)

It's 8.30 am and time for energy packed Breakfast :) Also time for shower and breakfast for younger kids.In between you can listen or read the latest headlines or check your FB.Not more than 5 mins.

CLEANING HOUSE(9.00 AM-10.00 AM)
Time for cleaning and household chore.

SALAATUL DUHA(10.00 AM-10.15 AM)
Take a shower and offer Duha salaah.More about Salaatul Duha

COOKING & LECTURE TIME(10.15 AM-11.30 AM)
Cooking lunch and dinner.Wind up all major kitchen chores within this time.Love this time because I can listen to my fav Islamic lecture :)

ME TIME(11.30 AM- till DHUHR SALAAH)
Time for some creativity or blogging or surfing net.

Now that the Morning routine is scheduled.That calls for some serious motivation and self control. :)

Motivation:

“If you can’t manage the minutes, you’ll never manage the month,

If you cannot manage a month,you cannot manage a year

If you cannot manage a year,you will never be able to manage your Duniya

If you cannot manage your Duniya,then you know ,what to expect from your Aakhirah!!”

May Allah save us from His torment and bless us to execute what we plan.Aameen. 

 

My First post Alhamdulillah

May Peace and blessings of Almighty Allah be upon His last prophet Muhammad saws,His Messengers and all righteous souls.Aameen.
Here comes my first post.Alhamdulillah! :) All Praises are due to Him alone Who enabled me to create this blog where I can share my daily thoughts and experiences in my journey as a Mother of 3 lovely kids :) giving them an Islamic Upbringing along with my titbits in home management,some creativity musings and cooking experiments.

Living in a place like Abu Dhabi,it has always been a feeling of isolation from all great Islamic events going around in the world.But Alhamdulillah,Allah has blessed people like me with a very powerful media like the internet to learn all that I can ever dream of learning about Islam and other stuffs of interest.And also get connected to like minded people.
May Allah make this blog beneficial for those of you who are reading it.Aameen.